Mental health

On dealing with triggers

Yesterday, Joep was cranky. Nothing on the computer was working. He got progressively more upset. This is a trigger for me. We both know this and deal with it when it happens. This time, I […]

Somatic Experiencing

Today, I had an intake for Somatic Experiencing. I’m on a waiting list for trauma therapy, but that’s 15 more weeks from now and I decided that I’m not going to sit by idly and […]

Tearing down the house – Autism

A letter to many therapists. When you try to tell a therapist your mother is autistic, many choose the attack: “Oh and why do you think that?”. They look at you in a threatening way. […]

Tearing down the house – 4

Don’t kick, hit, scream at or threaten to beat your children Don’t assault or scream at your wife, don’t grab her by the throat and choke her Don’t bully your family, don’t put them down, […]

On hiding, worth and rest

When I was a kid, my mom handmade a tablecloth made of all sorts of colorful pieces of fabric. It had a door and window, and buttons and shoelaces to practice with for us kids. […]

Tearing down the house – 3

How often does a parent have to yell, scream and swear at their child, to do serious emotional damage? How often does a parent have to threaten beating their child up, to do serious emotional […]

Shame and self-talk

You don’t want to know the sheer number of bookmarks on my phone and laptop related to psychology, PTSD, Complex PTSD, high sensitivity, overexcitability, boundaries, attachment problems, communicating effectively, anger, shame etcetera etcetera. The list […]

On emotional regulation

When I was in Japan, I remember a friend telling me that I came across as very angry. And it’s true. I was. And I still am. I’m still so very angry. I’m fuming. Just […]